By Wendy Campbell
Raising children on my own seemed like something that was inevitable for me. It seemed to be passed down from generation to generation on my mother's side. Most single parents know the struggle of raising children, maintaining a household, keeping the kids happy, and losing yourself in the process. So what happens once your kids are grown and out in the world living on their own? What do you do with yourself?
I knew I always wanted to be a business owner, but that dream felt a little far-fetched after
I divorced my husband of 9 ½ years and found myself raising two girls without the support of
the father that helped create these beautiful children. I told myself after they graduated high
school I would pursue my dreams of becoming a business owner. I initially thought that I would
open a restaurant since that was my background, and my daughters love to cook. But once I
started looking into what it would take for me to open a restaurant, I adjusted my dreams to
opening a food truck instead because that seemed more feasible. Even in downsizing my
dreams, they still felt out of reach. But why was that? So many single mothers were
starting businesses and creating the lifestyle they wanted to lead. How was it that they
were able to do that and I was not?
Instead of asking the proverbial “why” question over and over, I decided to get M.A.D.,
I Made A Decision. It was time for me to be who I was created to be. I was more than the
Girls’ Mom; more than an employee; More than everyone else's "yes" girl. So who is Wendy?
I'm having so much fun learning who I am, and what I like and don't like; what makes me happy. What clothes I like to wear; Where I want to travel. How I want to serve in my church; what kind of men I like. (Watch out now!!) While I've been on this journey of Restoration Wendy I've learned a few things that kept me on my path.
The windshield is bigger than the rear view mirror for a reason. The whole world is ahead of you, and it requires a big window so your view isn't obstructed. You don't want to miss anything. Don't spend time constantly looking in the rear view mirror at what's behind you. It's distracting and you will end up off course.
Create your mission statement. Build your goals, purpose, dreams, and direction so when distractions come you will have a guide to get back on track.
What others think of me is none of my business. Not everyone is for you, and that's ok. Find those that are. It's important to surround yourself with like-minded people. If you can't change people, change people.
Live life on your terms. Don't allow the expectations of others to determine your direction. Remember your mission statement. Stay in pursuit of your dreams, your passions, and your goals. And, do it your way so it becomes uniquely yours.
My journey to Restoration Wendy has been amazing so far. God makes all things new. Every day brings new mercies. You are more than your past. Bring out the YOU that is itching to get out. Restore you.